We first talked about the Complacent Scoundrel. This character is stuck in the status quo, never seeking what is best for herself. The Delayed Gratification Scoundrel is stuck in a different place - the future.
Characteristics of the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel
For the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel, she's always choosing to look forward to happiness at some later date or time. It's always a case of "I'll be happy when" with her. She's locked into the mindset of the future situation and enjoying that new phase of her life. This becomes a problem when she never chooses what'll make her happy NOW or when she sacrifices her present happiness for something that may never happen. Plain and simple, the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel is unable to experience contentment in the present, causing her to remain unhappy.
Questions to Ask
When you recognize that someone is affected by the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel, here are some questions to ask in order to gauge if she's ready to return to the present.
- How has the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel helped you?
- How has it negatively affected you?
- When were you first introduced to the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel? Was it brought to you by an outside force (family, culture, or society) or did you unconsciously accept it as your own?
- How have you been a Delayed Gratification Scoundrel in the past week?
- If there's something you'd rather be doing, can you do it instead?
- On a scale of 1-10 (10=best), how would you rate you overall level of satisfaction and happiness?
- How have you delayed your happiness in the past? How can you achieve instant gratification?
- What's one thing you can do TODAY to have gratification and happiness in your life TODAY?
Defeating the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel
Just as with the Complacent Scoundrel, there are a variety of ways to defeat the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel. However, these require a little more creativity to accomplish.
One big way to defeat the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel is to take time out of your day to play. What things do you enjoy doing, that entertain and excite you? Be artistic. Play games with your family or friends. Dress funky. Do whatever enjoyable activity that helps you to nurture your inner child and get out of your own way, putting the serious you in the background for that moment in time.
Another way is to allow yourself to be in awe of life. Take time to appreciate the little things in your environment and recognize the little things in yourself. Return to your child-like vision of the world, observing everything. You'll find things that you hadn't noticed before that this mind shift enables you to enjoy.
A third way is to add novelty into your life to make it more exiting. To do this you'll have to step out of your comfort zone. Just like with workouts you need to mix things up in the rest of your life. I'm getting ready to do this myself in the next couple of weeks as we head to Germany to visit Benny's ailing mother. I haven't been on a plane since 99 and don't know the language. The whole trip is a novelty for me.
To keep your mind on defeating the Delayed Gratification Scoundrel, there are many affirmations that can guide you. Pick any from the list (or choose your own), write them down, and place the affirmations around your home and workplace where they're visible to you.
I deserve all that I desire.
I desire all that I deserve.
I deserve to live the life I choose to lead.
I choose to be happy now.
I live in a limitless reality.
I accept the abundance of the Universe now.
My happiness is important to me today.
I listen to my heart.
I am in awe of my life as it stands right now.
I am balanced between work and play.
I revel in the ebb and flow of life.